Feeling left out

• Remember your focus. Remember that being called and saved by grace is the first and foremost thing in our lives. Period. Remember that the men and women of faith (all throughout history) have suffered and endured for the sake of this gospel. Just read Hebrews 11 and you'll understand a bit more clearly. Remember Christ as he was rejected by the world and was betrayed and denied by those closest. If Christ endured that kind of rejection (and even the turn from the Father) how much more should we expect it? Remember that being a member is not predicated on how we feel at church. Christ first. 
• Try not to over-assume. What i mean by that is don't take the surface action and assume that that is what people are thinking. It's a reverse form of pride called 'self-loathing' We have the Habakkuk & Jonah mentality and go "woe is me". I've learned that most of the time i make up random scenarios in my head when they are necessarily true. But give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they just didn't know to invite or it just happened that way. I don't feel like i need to be invited to every thing and if i'm not, i don't take offense to it. 
• Be active rather than passive. For the longest time, i just sat back and waited for people to approach me and talk to me. And when they didn't...i would blame them. If you want to do something with people...ask them to do something. Ask to join. Set up events for yourself. And ask others to come along. But there's a warning about this too - you need to be sensitive to always inviting yourself to things. 
• Evaluate the heart. Why is it so important that you hang out with this particular group or that particular person? Is it because everyone is doing it? Now if those people are ignore you on purpose and they know they are supposed to build community...then that's on them and not for you to worry about. There are TONS of people who need to be part of this community...help them. I need SO many more members of our youth group to reach out to "other" youth. Those who don't typically come to events.