CBCGB 2012 Winter Retreat: Recap

The Anticipation: One of my friends from seminary (Jen Lin) asked if I would be interested in speaking at her 2012 Winter Retreat. I received an email from her on September 14, 2011 titled, “Doing anything Feb. 24-26? Smiley face smiley face”. It took me 2 hours to check my calendar and replied, “consider it done!” More smiley faces.  This would be her first retreat since becoming the Jr. high pastor there and this would be my first jr. high only retreat to speak at. Needless to say…we were both a bit nervous and excited about the retreat. There were a couple of things that I wanted to do right away: 1) start my homework. I wanted to figure out the theme as soon as possible just so I could begin to pray over the topics and begin studying the passage. 2) I wanted to do my research of the church, the youth, and the leaders. Let me clue you in on how I did this:

1. Once Jen told me that theme was “Ready to Lose” and the verse came out of Philippians 3 I began to pray through the sessions. She told me that I had 4 talks to mold around the vision of “losing everything to follow Christ.” I think I spent the next month praying through the topic and asking God what in the world he would want me to speak to the students about. Then I started to dig through Philippians 3. Starting in verse 7 all the way to verse 14 the text broke down fairly well. Note: I wanted to let the text determine my points and my messages. So as I continued to study the passage, I broke down (as I saw it) into 4 parts – 7-8a; 8b-11; 12; and 13-14. Then with the theme in mind I kept asking, “what is Paul trying to communicate here?” Is there a process of losing? And I saw 4 things: 1) Paul counting all things as lost (even his achievements); 2) Paul suffering for the sake of Christ; 3) Paul striving to know Jesus; and 4) Paul forgetting and straining. From there I spent the next several months really digging into the verses exegetically.  I wanted to make sure I knew the text – each word, main idea, context, commentaries, etc. When it got closer to the retreat…I started asking, “What does this mean for the youth at CBCGB?” Which leads me to #2

2. I think if you’re going to speak to a group of people, you gotta know your audience. At first, my only frame of reference to jr. high kids were the ones at CBC. Now I know those kids because I work with them and I’ve been with them for over 7 months now. They know me and how we do things here…but I had no clue who the students in Boston were like. So I started to research the best way I knew how – facebook. I tried to get as much info on them as possible so I went to Jen’s and Stan’s facebooks and just tried to get an idea of what these kids were like. I also asked Jen through gchat about the students. Questions like: “what kind of students are they? How big is the group? What are some of the challenges that they’re going through?  Where are they at spiritually? How involved are their parents? What is the structure of the church? How about the staff structure? How old is the church and where do they land theologically?” I browsed through facebook pictures of events they went to. Unfortunately, their CBCGB facebook page was a bit lacking so I didn’t get much info from there. Their link though helped a little bit more. I looked through last year’s winter retreat blogs and pictures and registration forms. That helped a bit but there wasn’t much about the theme, what to expect, etc. So after all of this…I had an OK view of my audience…at least enough to feel confident in my messages.

5am Houston to Boston: I remember the week before leaving, the nerves overtook me and part of me was deathly afraid of going to speak. I was scared about everything and the what ifs started to creep up. “What if the kids don’t listen to me? What if the messages don’t make no sense much good? What if the plane crashes and I have to defend myself against a pack of angry wolves without the help of Liam Neeson?” My selfishness told me to stay here where it’s more comfortable. Houston is where everyone listens to me and my youth always pay attention to everything I have to say. But God continued to remind me, “Hey stupid…this is about me, not you, your job is to be faithful to your call and teach and preach to my people…not yours.” And yet again, He won.

5am and Aunt Trudy (one of my admin moms) takes me to the airport. Thanks Aunt Trudy! The plan was to refine the messages a bit more…but I can’t stay awake on planes so I just sleep. Jen picks me up and we just chill out for awhile until we get to church to work on more camp stuff. By the way, if you’re a CBCGB student/leader reading this…just know that Jen doesn’t stop working. She does her best so that you can experience the best possible retreat. Be gracious. That night we do pizza and we crash fairly early.
Retreat 2012: It would take me 209401 pages to write a full report on all that I’ve experience (and you’ll probably won’t read it) so I’ll just do this in bullets…go!

1. Weather: So apparently, 20 degrees is cold. I mean, “I think my blood is frozen” cold. I actually made a last minute decision thanks to Tina to bring my “big” jacket. Again, she saved my life. The day I left Houston, it was 80 degrees. The first night at the retreat it was like 20. And then there was this one kid who wore shorts. Crazy kid.

2. Camp Site: The camp was held in New Hampshire (I think) at a family-owned site  called “Maranatha”. I had several chances to actually meet the family and they’re wonderful people with a tremendous amount of patience and love for youth. So I’m used to retreat sites where it takes 1.7 minutes to get from my cabin to anything else. From the main worship center to the dining room was a 10 minute walk – up a mountain. I think my calves are twice its original size now. Highlights though: beautiful scenery, a blazing fire during meals, and a beverage buffet that was stellar. Oh, and one of the meals we actually ate outside in the snow. Parents, you’re going to love this – so they give pointy sticks to each kid and hot dogs and they get to roast them over these open fire pits. My first thought was “hmmm….shorts kids with sharp sticks running around...i’m going to get stabbed in the eyeball or somewhere worse.”

3. Sessions: I was pretty nervous about speaking…and I think it was more so because I really didn’t know the students all too well. But I kept on remembering the words of encouragement from the youth back at CBC, my discipleship, and my youth leaders. I think I could have refined the messages a lot more…there were times when I felt like I was a bit too dependent on my notes or the powerpoint. I also felt like it could have been a lot more clear and direct. And I guess this is why I continue to love the sovereignty of God, because if he moved in the hearts of the students…it had to be all him. The goal was to be as transparent and honest about the Christian faith as possible. I wanted to communicate that there was a difference between religion and actually following after Jesus. I wanted to challenge them to actually chase Jesus for the sake of joy instead of a duty-driven mentality of begrudging submission. All in all, I believe God used whatever we did there to glorify himself. *if you want to download a copy of the manuscripts, please go to www.cbc-youth.com and under resources and messages will be a copy.

4. Evaluation: I’m hopeful for the youth at CBCGB. I pray that the Lord convicted some of them of their pride, comfort them in the midst of trials and suffering, refocus their priorities on Him and Him alone, and finally helping them understand that the Cross of Christ covers all sins and nobody is out of the love and grace of his love. I pray that the guys there finally take their place and begin developing into godly men and stop acting like little boys. I pray that the youth understand the steps to gospel-centered growth. I think for the ones who really wanted to grow…they got something out of it. I believe there were multiple salvations and many more commitments. One student came up to me and in tears just said, “I think I want to do this.” At first I wasn’t sure what he meant and realized it was about following Jesus. And so I asked him, “You sure? You know what this means right? It’s a total sacrifice and commitment.” And sobbing he nodded yes. “Then you ask him to be your salvation. Ask him to save and grow you.” And as he silently and with great passion asked the Lord to save him…I was just in awe of how great and awesome our Lord is. Understanding theologically everything there is to know about salvation…but seeing it happen right in front of your face. That was a blessing.

5. Counselors: I continue to believe that the backbone of youth ministry is held together by its leaders & counselors. These are the ones who give up everything and demand nothing in return. They are spend everything and are not paid. They sleep little, work lots, and give it their all. These counselors here are no different. I observed them before, during, and after the retreat and my heart was again humbled by these servants. They were asked to drive to camp and back, to shuttle the students up and down the mountain, and stand outside in the freezing cold. Not only did they counsel, they led workshops, discipled, played with, and trained these students. I never heard them complain. In fact, they took the initiative to serve whenever they saw the need. Students, these counselors love you yes…but that love is motivated by the love of Christ. They value the gospel more than anything and because of that it transforms their action. Thank you counselors for serving your guts out this weekend and being a part of the transformative process of these youth. I thank you as a guest for allowing me to partner with you in ministry. If you ever need resources about anything…please let me know. A lot of our leadership training could also be found on our youth website.

I’m extremely gracious for this opportunity. For my youth back at CBC for allowing me to minister to other youth for a weekend and teaching them the things we learn at home. Thank you to my church for giving me these opportunities to be challenged and exercise my gifts. Thank you to Tina for always encouraging me to be better and reminding me that it is about Jesus. Thank you Jen for trusting me to speak to your youth and giving me the chance to minister to them. Thank you CBCGB and Metro West Church for allowing me to pastor you for a bit. Thanks for not throwing anything at me or pranking me. Thanks for being so warm and welcoming to a new person from Texas…and I hope one day soon we get to do this again.

Lastly, youth of CBCGB…do not slow down, do not give up…continue to pursue Christ with all your heart…because he’s so worth it. We at CBC Youth will continue to pray for you – that you play your part well and that one day we get to meet and share stories of how God moved in Boston and in Houston.

The Church Game

The Church Game

We've seen this game played out many times in the youth group. It's this warped sense of Christianity that is not true but because we never corrected it or because of straight up rebellion, it has become an unfortunate virus spreading through our churches. We like to call ourselves "Christians" but have we just deceived ourselves? Have we just turned this Christianity thing into a game? There are 7 elements to the church game...and if you're not paying attention, chances are you're already playing it.

John 10:10a "the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy..."

Here are some tips if you want to play the church game:

1.                   Stay Shallow: Make sure to stay as shallow as possible in your faith. The less effort you put forth in growing the better. Why? Because growing takes too much work and besides, you have better things to do (like beating your friends in games). If you stay shallow, you don't need to have any responsibilities. You can just settle for how things are. And it's not that bad is it? Don't challenge yourself...it's too hard. Plus sometimes it's just awkward right? And surely if you try to grow you'll make things awkward for yourself and others. But make sure you do some things so that you can seem like you have it all together. Just so people won't judge you. The biggest thing is that you make sure you're happy. Just do whatever you want. Things will work themselves out one day. I'm pretty sure you'll get into heaven if you just attend church. Actually...i bet you'll become healthy and wealthy at the same time.

DON’T CHALLENGE YOURSELF…IT’S TOO HARD!

 

2.                   Be an Island: Whatever you do, don't trust other people. Yes, they may seem like they care...but once you open up to them, they might betray you. Always assume the worst of people. That's why you should only be friends with a small group of people and not open yourself to others. Distance yourself from people. Or at least make sure they talk to you first. There's no need for you to go talk with them. Find people who are exactly like you so that they can always tell you that you're doing well. If anyone says anything negative about you drop 'em like its hot. You don't need that in your life. Besides, they probably have issues themselves too and who are they to judge you. Try not to share your soul with anyone. They might judge you and think you're a sinner. Do your own thing whenever you want to. What matters is that you do what you want to do when you want to do it. I'm sure everyone does that too right? Only be involved in things when it concerns you. But when it doesn't...you can do whatever you want. So make sure your cell phone is ready because when you get bored, you can play.
 

3.                   You're smarter: Always remember that you have all the answers. You don't need to study or learn after Elementary school because not only have you learned all the Sunday school lessons but because you already know how the world works. People should follow you on facebook and twitter because your opinions are golden. Make sure that you never apologize for whatever you say because you don't need to. You're always right and even if people think you're wrong...chances are that they are wrong or are jealous. Yeah...you don't need to study scripture or theology or doctrine...it's too hard. I mean, you have all these classes that you're taking and plus, it's boring. You don't get any school credit for it nor does it help your GPA. Don't worry about it. Leave it up to other people to deal with it. Ah...but when people try to teach you, make sure you give them your opinion on the matter. They are probably out of date and they probably don't have the same opinions that you have. Oooh, and make sure you don't ask questions - people will think you're dumb. Don't ask for help, you probably don't need it...i mean, i'm sure whatever you think is right.

4.                   Serve Yourself: Remember that you're the center of the universe. I mean the Bible does say that God loves you more than anything right? And his goal in life is to make you happy so he gives you everything so that you can be happy on earth. For God so loved you right? So make sure that whatever money you have...spend it on yourself. I mean, you earned it and why would you give up something you earned. Hold on to that and continue to get as much as you can. When it comes to time, again...you need to do whatever fits your schedule. God created other people for you so make sure they're on your schedule. The most important thing is that you enjoy your life now and worry about the consequences later. Oh yeah, those talents you have...those are your talents. Make sure you use them well so that you can get ahead in life. All those other people are jealous of your talent so make sure you tell them about it. Being a leader means telling people what to do…it really doesn’t apply to you. Just make sure you command people to do what you don’t do. But also make sure you complain about serving if you do it. They need you and in reality, you sacrifice so much to give…why shouldn’t people honor you? You deserve it!

YOU ARE THE CENTER 

OF THE UNIVERSE

5.                   Submit to No One: Whatever you do, don't submit to anyone. You are your own person and you don't answer to anyone. Everyone is equal so nobody can tell you what to do or how to act. Even when people use the bible to talk to you about stuff...don't listen to them because they're probably using it to judge you and nobody should judge you. Accountability is over-rated. You probably know what's best for your own life so just do whatever you feel like. Everyone is always up in people's business anyway...they don't need to be up in yours. Besides, you don't need more people like your parents in your life telling you what to do and what not to do. They're too old to understand what your life is really about anyway. Don't trust them. They probably just tell you stuff because they don't want you to be happy. Also, you're not held accountable to anyone anyways. Those kids younger than you need to learn the hard way - on their own. That's how you learned. You didn't listen to nobody and look how you turned out. So make sure you don't teach them anything...don't mentor them. It's probably too hard anyways. I mean, they probably won't appreciate you like they should. Plus, it's always too hard to get a hold of them. And i mean, you have too much stuff to do anyways. You don't need that added stress in your life.

6.                   Keep it Secret: Hey...you got saved, that's all that matters. Now that you're saved you're pretty much off the hook and you can do whatever you'd like to do. Don't worry about everyone else out there...the important thing is that you're saved. Those people out there are probably too messed up to be a Christian...so don't worry about them. Besides, i'm sure you don't have the time to go talk to them about it, or i'm pretty sure it'll be crazy awkward. They might think you're a stalker or something. I mean, someone will do it right? It doesn't have to be you. You're too young anyway to make a difference. They probably wouldn't want to talk to you about it even if we went up to them. What would you even say? What if you get the facts wrong? What if you can't answer a question and they think Christianity is stupid? Yeah, you're right...the best thing is probably not to go tell people. I mean, it's not that important anyways. It's not like a requirement or anything. What matters is that you're in...now you can do whatever you want.

YOU GOT SAVED…

THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS

7.                   Pray Occasionally: The only time you need to pray is really for meals or when you need God to do something for you. Outside of those things, you can probably handle it on your own. But make sure you know how to pray because when you are forced to pray...you can say some pretty big words to impress people of how spiritual you are. You don't need to pray all the time...just when you feel like it or remember. And if you do pray, make sure to pray only for yourself. Pray that God gives you good grades and makes you happy. Isn't it true that God is waiting to hear from you? Probably because He's lonely or bored. 

Unfortunately, this is the game we've played, are playing, or will play if we don't pay attention. The problem isn't that we're doing this or even think this way...the real problem is that we're missing out on something bigger and better. We sacrifice ultimate joy for what we believe is a better plan. In essence, we say "forget God's way...i know what's best." We play this game because we're prideful and selfish and in the end, we think we know better. And instead of humbly submitting our lives at the feet of Christ and asking him to lead us, we proudly stand on top of the cross and say, "Yeah...don't worry I got this." Is this you? Do you fall into this mentality or this kind of life?

Why do you settle for this Christian? Yes following Jesus is not as easy as we thought…but he’s worth it. But do you believe him? Do you trust him? May your eyes be opened and your hearts be transformed to see that this is nothing near what Christ has called us to. 

John 10:10b “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”

Status Check

James 2:16 and one of you says to them, "Go in peace, be warmed and filled," without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?

Someone walks into your assembly (a member of the family no less) and there's something that stands out about them. Before you pick up your head to see who came in, you can kind of smell that there's a bit of funkiness that's wafting towards you. You're right - they're dirty. And by the looks of it, the dude doesn't look all that safe...probably hungry too. But that's not your problem. You don't owe him nothing. I mean, who knows...he could have deserved what happened to him. What if he made a series of bad choices...that's on him, not your fault. But wait...he's coming towards you. 

You think, "Man, i didn't want this to happen. Why is there an empty spot next to me? I knew i should have sat somewhere else." But he comes any ways and he slouches down right next to you. He smiles and says, "Hi, you having a good day?" What do you say? You're really trying to hold your breathe from gagging. But you answer, "Yeah. i'm good." You exhale as you look away. But he doesn't stop talking. Doesn't he know that it's service? I'm pretty sure he's distracting everyone around us. I bet people are looking at the two of you now and thinks you're part of the problem too. You're nice though and you politely nod your head while looking down at your hands hoping that he'd shut up and let you worship. 

Last song. Service ends. You made it. The goal is now to leave as fast as possible so the guy doesn't talk to you again. But before you can make your exit, he uncomfortably grabs your arm. Calloused hands. Probably dirty. You cringe. "Hey...can i borrow some cash for a cab ride home? or maybe some money for food?" You look concerned and you tap your pockets, "Sorry. Don't have anything for you." You lied. It's ok though...you probably saved him from buying booze or enabling him to do something sinful. "Sorry...buy i'll be praying for you though." As you leave you feel guilty for a second. But then, you said you'd pray for them and right then and there..."God, please be with that man." All is done...

...or is it? 

Feb. 2012 Youth Praise: Recap

Philippians 1:27  Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel 


1. Is your life consistent? Following Jesus doesn't restrict itself to only Sundays but it's everywhere you go and whatever you think. Notice something: our lives are already found in the Gospel of Christ...so we want to live a manner of life worthy of it. The heart changes the actions...not the other way around. We want to encourage you to really think through this one...does what i say, how i act, and what i do really reflect what i believe about Jesus?

• If yes, then how can you continue to grow and challenge yourself to grow even more? 
• If no, where do you need to confess and repent? What are some areas that are inconsistent? If you feel like you're always struggling with this or if you need to talk with someone please click here:  http://www.cbc-youth.com/contact.html

2. Are you striving side by side? This journey of faith that we've been put on isn't meant to be traveled on alone. Yes, i know some of you are tough and awesome. Yes, i know that some of you have trust issues because someone has burnt you before. But...our faith is symbolized as a "family" and we are to live this out together. What does that mean? Well...it means that we think the best of each other instead of putting each other down. It means we actually do life with each other and we open ourselves up to each other as well. We talk with one another about how things are really going. It also means we look out for one another...1) to help them grow and 2) when they look like they're hurting themselves. What are some ways you can do this here?

• Attend our weekly gatherings: ACCESS on Fridays, Church Service & Sunday School on Sundays. 
• Come to DNOW, Java Jam, World Changers, and New York with us. To sign up or get more info click here:  http://www.cbc-youth.com/events.html
• Call each other up often and check up on them. Text someone you typically don't talk to. Pray with people when you see them. And be patient in doing this because this striving side-by-side takes a long time.

3. What the point? In the end, we want to live the best possible life there is. We learn from Scripture that this life is done best by first and foremost...following after Jesus for all things. Second, we see that it is done with others that have the same goal. Lastly, we do all of this because we believe the Gospel to be real and for us who have experienced its beauty and power...there's nothing else that will do. 

DMin Spring 2012 Syllabus

excited for this semester...

COURSE GOALS 

Students will focus on the concepts of worldview and culture to enable more effective ministry to a 21^st century milieu and how to proclaim God’s word to that culture.

STUDENT LEARNING OUTCOMES

In this course the student will:

·         Be able to lead a study on worldview concepts.

·         Interact with competing worldviews.

·         Be able to discuss events and movements in history in light of the historical record including critical analysis of their relationship to other concepts and movements.

·         Interpret contemporary issues within Christianity in light of the context of Biblical truth, theological orthodoxy, philosophical considerations and church history.

·         Be confident in standing on the Word of God despite any culture shifts.

·         Demonstrate the ability to think historically and critically about these issues.

·         Understand basics of effective rhetorical argumentation

·         Be able to exercise theological and methodological discernment.

·         Engage thinking on worldview as it applies to ministry.

·         Learn from those who have journeyed before us in the adventure of faith.

CBC Winter Retreat 2011:Counselor Training #2

Welcome back Counselors. Hopefully by now you have read the first training session to prep your heart for the excitement that awaits you. I shall now attempt to answer all your questions.

Theme & Vision: What are we hoping to accomplish this year? Our focus for our youth ministry this year was "missions." We have been teaching that missions isn't something we do once a year and it's not just feeding poor people...missions, according to Acts 17 (and mandated in Matt. 28) is wherever we go. Our hearts are changed because of the Gospel and therefore we herald the Good News to all that might not know him.

We wanted our Winter Retreat this year to continue to push this idea. We wanted our students to leave with two very big things:

1. Understanding the Biblical intent of missions and how it applies to each believer. 
2. For our students to leave with a practical plan and implementation of missions when they go home. 

We want their understandings to shift from inward focused consumerism to outward focused love and service. Your job, leaders, is to teach them what that looks like...challenge them to live and own it. So maybe some of you need to start researching Houston a bit more and see what is available. Start coming up with practical plans of implementing missions in their community and sphere of influence. At ACCESS (our weekly fellowship) we practiced talking with people and one friday we went out and did it. 

How Do I Get Ready to Counsel? First thing is to read through our document called "Core Values (leaders)" that is attached in your email. Second thing is look over your small group (emailed) and perhaps do some research on them. Most of our students have mentors that you might want to ask to get some help. Third, be sure that you know the schedule and where things are - if you're prepared, it helps the student feel more confident in your leadership as well as keeping you organized. Lastly, prepare yourself physical, spiritually, and emotionally. 

What Do I Do As a Counselor? 

1. Counsel: Your big responsibilities are:
1. Small Groups: Leading discussions in your small groups about the relevant topic of the night given to you by the speaker. Your small group material will be based off of the nights session. Part of this is helping the students think through what really happened that day. Your job is to coach and to challenge all at once. Get them to engage in discussion and teach them how to ask questions. 
2. Participating: Your role as a leader is to be fully bought in to - the vision, the goals, and the mission of CBC's Winter Retreat. So we're asking you to sacrifice a bit more in addition to what you've given already to being fully engaged with each student. Play, talk, and minister to the students. 
2. Talk: Each of you have a unique perspective when it comes to your spiritual growth (esp. as it relates to missions). Be constantly teaching the students about how you grow in your walk. Be honest with them about your struggles as an older christian and how you are currently/or have fought it. Help them see how you are doing missions and what are your efforts like. Other times, talk with the students about "deeper" issues - family, relationships, self-esteem, etc. Always remember, though, if you feel like you cannot answer the question, please refer them to Justin or Adam. 

Difference of 2011: If you've  been to CBC's winter retreat before this one is a bit different. If you haven't...well, you won't know any better. Anyways...we just ask you to be extremely flexible. The worst thing you can do is have a negative attitude about how things are turning out or whatever. Trust me, this one will challenge you as counselors...but we believe the book of James when it says that those things are for your good. 

1. Organization: We wanted to let our youth leadership take the lead on planning and organizing this retreat. I wanted to let them learn how to work together, think through things, and vision cast. They are doing a great job with it but there are things they still need to work through. This year, Adam Lee will be the winter retreat director. Which means he'll be behind the scenes instructing and organizing everything. He'll be leading the counselor meetings and he'll be the main one you report to at this retreat. We want to give him the leadership development that God has called him to and we trust that this will be another great moment for him to lead us. 
2. Speaker & Band: Last year we went without a speaker because it fit our vision best. This year we're bringing it back. And we're bringing in one of my personal friends Mark Heavener who is an expert in local and global missions. He works with the BGCT in helping second generation asian churches get together and organized. I've asked him to speak on some of his experiences and especially what specific needs there are in Houston so that our youth can go home and start meeting those needs. We've also invited a band with us this year (from Baylor) and they'll be ministering to us via music. 
3. Visitors: This year we have an exceptionally large group of visitors with us. Some of them are from other various churches in the area that we've made connections with but the bulk are Bhutanese refugees. We're extremely excited to invite a group of them to come and play with us during this retreat. A lot of our church members made a huge effort in providing so that they're able to come. So they'll all be integrated into your small group. Do your research. 

Everything Else:

1. Serving: As an act of service, we provide the cafeteria additional hands to clean up. A list of names will be posted on the wall with a meal time in which you are responsible for cleaning. 
2. Pine Cove: We'll be going to Pine Cove again for the 4th year and we love it. We've already built a great relationship with the staff and admin. If you want to see it please visit:  http://www.pinecove.com/retreats/outback
3. What to bring: bring what you'll typically wear to a 4 day retreat in hill country Texas in late December. There are beds and mattresses...no linens, no towels, or blankets. Must bring bible. Additional points if you provide your group with resources. Oh yeah, bring western attire for Thursday night. Giddy up!

CBC Winter Retreat 2011:Counselor Training #1

Dear Counselors and Leaders: You have taken on a very sacred and exciting role. You get to help equip, train, and transform the lives of many youth with the power of the Holy Spirit. It is a gift that not only the youth allow you to speak truth to them, but the parents, the church, the other leaders hand over the responsibility to you to carry out what they've been doing all year. We have prayed for you and now God has brought you to CBC Winter Retreat. So whether you are new or old to our youth group...we ask you to remember several things:


Remember: 

• That you are a counselor, leader, and/or musician because you were saved by the grace of God. That is your first identity - not in what you can do, or what you have to offer...you are first a child a God, adopted into his kingdom, were a slave to sin but redeemed by Jesus...Remember that it is never about achieving moral perfection but about admitting total surrender. This is not a "us" verses "them" mentality. Remember that at the end of the day...all that matters if your personal commitment to Jesus and the death to yourself. If you don't remember this this retreat is not for you and i'd ask you to humbly release your responsibilities.
  
• That you are here to serve to the best of your abilities. Please spend as much time equipping and training our youth for life AND holiness. Like Jesus, you are to have the thought that you come to serve rather than be served. And that you serve not because you "have to" but because you want to mimic your savior and be a servant to all. Please don't waste your time while you are there with us. Whatever needs to be done...please be the first to do it with expecting anything in return.
  
• Please leave your pride at the door. You no longer represent "UT" or "Baylor" or "A&M" or even "college student"...you represent a risen King. I'm begging you to be more about Jesus than you are about claiming worldly organizations. Teach them all day long about what Jesus is teaching you at college but never use it to point back to yourself and elevate your status.
  
• Live and Learn: as a counselor and leader...winter retreat is not a time where you discover yourself or for you to sort things out (i mean, it'll probably happen) but please have all that done before camp and be refueled and ready to give all you can to the students. If there are relationships that are broken, please go and fix those before camp. If there are issues that are present in your life...please begin to work on them before camp. Also, please brush up (keep up) with your spiritual growth - service, discipleship, bible study, etc. Come to camp spiritually ready counselors and leaders.
  

Assignment: Please take this assignment seriously as it is my intention to spur you into deeper growth. Consider it joy as you are challenged by this sermon and intellectually engage the material and ultimately put this into practice. 

• http://www.thevillagechurch.net/sermon/salt-of-the-earth/

The Good Portion

Things that I found interesting about Luke 10:38-42

1. Jesus taught women.
2. Martha is a bit passive aggressive.
3. Martha isn't evil.
4. One thing is necessary.
5. Security is in Christ alone.
6. There's a difference between serving Jesus because we love him and serving Jesus because we want him to love us. 

Redefining Church

Redefining Church │ What is the Church? Like when you stop to think about it…what is this building and these people supposed to accomplish? Because many of us (me included) have grown up in the church all our lives but we rarely sit back and really think about what in the world we’re doing here or what we’re supposed to be doing.

·         Be “good people” │ Romans 3:10 quotes Psalms 14 saying “There is none righteous, no not one”. And then in Isaiah 64:6 says even our attempts of doing “good things” are like filthy rags. I’d explain more but you can come and talk with me later. If this is what scripture tells us why is it that there’s this “rule” that says we have to be perfect? Or at least act like it? The thing is that we can’t…we’re sinful people and we’re utterly and completely hopeless on our own. But “God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ.” (Eph. 2:4-5) Please don’t forget this because when you take the Good News out of church, it gets ugly real fast. We no longer see the Cross of Christ as central…rather it has become about you and I trying to become “morally good people.” That’s not for me coach.

·         Country Club │ We have this mentality that the church for some reason is there for us, to serve us, to make much of us. And I don’t think you would actually come out and say that but just watch how you act. Don’t just watch how you serve…but with what kind of attitude do you serve? Will you sacrifice your own wants and “status” for the sake of the gospel, for this church? What do you think you deserve? Do you think you deserve to be on stage to tell everyone how they should be like you? Are you due all the honor and glory and praise of the people? There are way too many people that want the spotlight and very few who will work the trenches. And I’m not talking about picking up trash once a year and think that you’ve done it all. Where’s the guy who will set up chairs by themselves and not expect any form of recognition or payment? Where’s that guy who says “I’ll serve because I’ve been saved by a great God and King and this is the least I could do”? Where’s the person that will give without thinking about what’s in it for them? I’ll tell you…church life will ALWAYS expose your heart. And for some of us, it’s more about me than Jesus.

·         Rock Stars │ Everyone has a band now and we’re all waiting for the next big thing. And I get it…people get to see you on stage – gawk at your chiseled abs, buy your cds. But here’s the thing again…there’s only one true rock star – he’s the cornerstone and his name is “holy”. We got to stop thinking that our opinions is the only one and if someone doesn’t do it or even “get it” like we do…then they’re stubborn, ignorant, or unspiritual. When you hold that attitude, it goes to show that you have lost sight of everything. Why? Because you don’t extend the same grace that was extended to you when you first started off. And instead of modeling and guiding them biblically…you want them to be like you. When it comes down to it…who runs the church? What I’ve seen is that it’s been opinions that run the church…not biblical understanding, nor pastoral leadership, and much less the Holy Spirit…rather opinions, pragmatics, and rock stars that lead. Please let us run back to a biblical foundation and a biblical understanding of what Church really looks like. And you know what? It’s not always going to make sense – almost every circumstance in scripture doesn’t “make sense” but we’re not called to analyze situations to death and call it “due diligence”. Biblically submit to those God has called to lead this church in an honoring way. 

Getting the most out of camp

Getting the Most Out of Camp | Wisdom from the Experience

Intro | I figured if you’re reading this already, you’re a bit curious to find out what we have to say. Good! I like that. All I want to do is to share some wisdom with you from my past experience as a camper and all that I can offer as a counselor, organizer, and pastor. Ultimately, it’d be foolish to attend an event and “see what will happen.” So…here’s some advice for you so that you might be able to get the most out of camp.

The Prep Work | I know this is going to sound cliché for a lot of ya’ll but it’s true…if you really want to get the most out of camp, be prepared for it. Why is this so important? Well because you only get to go to camp once a year and so if you go without being prepared…you’ll just kinda wing it and go with the flow. Now that isn’t bad…but it isn’t the smartest either. So how do you prepare yourself?

• Prepare physically. The last thing you want to do is be sick or injured before going to camp. Try not to exhaust your body too much before camp starts. Try to sleep early, eat fairly well (there are these green things in the world called veggies…try some), and don’t do anything that might get you injured (like ultimate danger danger, run with giant forks, or be a contestant on Fear Factor) 

• Prepare Spiritually. The difference between church camp and any other camp is that there should be a different motive going. For these church camps, your ultimate (notice the word ultimate) goal is that YOU grow deeper. So the prep work might involve spending some time praying about different parts of camp. It could involve you settling some problems beforehand so that you’re not distracted at camp. It could mean setting goals for yourself to accomplish at camp. 

Chit-Chat | You might think I’m crazy on this one…but a huge part of camp is talking. Whaaat? It’s true though. I know some of ya’ll are shy or you think that you’re better than other people so you don’t need to talk, but talking is a huge deal at camp. Now let me explain what I’m talking (haha) about.

• Openness & honest during small groups: A lot of times we like to sit back and allow everyone else in the group to talk. And maybe that’s because of a variety of things (pride, selfishness, shyness, etc) but have the mentality that community occurs in the context of relationships. There’s a time for you to listen to others, BUT there must be a time where YOU have to share your life, your story, and what God is doing/not doing to you. Share your personal struggles, your victories, what you doubt…and who cares if you think people look at you. It’s ok. 

• Time to meet new people: Again, you don’t get these chances a lot in life and although we do camp every year…it’s only 1 week out of the year. And honesty, you don’t often see all these people…so take advantage of that. For you older kids, see camp as a time for yourself to grow BUT also see it as Eph. 4:12 and it is your mission field to train and equip the younger generation. All those kids younger than you…that should be your target to go, “Hey…I’m _______, I wanna tell you about what God has done in my life, what I’ve learned, and I’d like to teach you whatever I can.” And for you younger kids, it is a time to go find older mentors to ask questions to – ask them how they learned personally, ask them what some things to watch out for are. 

• One-on-ones: Take advantage of your 1-on-1 time. I know you think that playing is more important…but man, c’mon…you get to play all the other time. Again, it’s having the mindset that “I’m going to take advantage of this special opportunity at camp to GROW as much as I can” And one good way is during your one-on-one. Ok…now here’s something that nobody tells you. I’m going to give you all my advice coming from the counselor/pastors mind. Usually, the counselor is the one doing all the questioning and for the most part, you get into the same stuff. But if you really wanna take advantage of your time, ask him questions that you want to know. Challenge your counselor and pick their brains about everything. Again, find out what they did well and take notes and find out what they had trouble on and take notes. Listen to me…every single person has their own stories, so go find them out. 

Sermon Time | As a speaker for many camps, I spent a lot…I mean, a lot of time prepping for my talks for camp. And come camp time, I’m friggin’ nervous! Not because youth scare me (although sometimes ya’ll do) but because I’m responsible for bringing the truth of God and all that it implies to your life. It’s like I have these awesome information that might (with the work of the Holy Spirit) change your life so of course I want you to hear it.

• Leave your pride at the door! Who cares what the guy/girl looks like?! Who cares if they speak in a funny accent?! The real reason why you focus on all these external things is because you truly don’t want to listen to him. Maybe because they’re “boring” or maybe because “it doesn’t speak to me”. C’mon…that’s all about you! Don’t focus on those things because it does you no good and it’ll ultimately rob you of growth.
• Look & listen for truth: Please please please bring your bibles and something to write with. There’s always truth to be found when anyone is talking. Take notes…see if you can find the main idea of the sermon. And then, when they’re done, figure out how that lesson applies to you. And here’s the big thing…always ask, “Ok self…how do I take this lesson/passage and teach it to someone else?” Because it’s not ok to just know it…but you must know how to teach it. 

Final Thoughts | That’s why camp is a blessing man! Because you get the chance to hear all these different stories from all different people. That’s why you sell yourself short when you just hang around the same people all the time wanting to just play all the time. I’m not saying don’t play or don’t hang out with your friends…all I’m saying is go to camp with the right mentality – to grow.

If your goal is to just “get away” or to just “have fun” then I’m sorry, I think you could have saved your money and done that somewhere else. And in the end, you’ve wasted some valuable time and neglected some excellent resources. Please please please know that my heart is for your growth. So please think about these things. Know that I’m praying for you as you go to camp…hey! It’s really fun and it’s changed my life…but go in with the right heart, right attitude, and expect God to change you!

How do you fight?

1. What's the point? Remember, when you're talking about things...always remember what the bigger purpose is. For us, it's about the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Don't forget that our life here is temporary and we look forward to a future when all things are made new. I know that when people are living in their selfish, prideful bodies...they tend to focus on what is right in front of them. They let their emotions own them and they totally forget why there were arguing in the first place. Don't forget the bigger picture.
2. Issue not Person: When you're talking with people it's way too easy to make everything personal. Emotions fly and things go everywhere. When you argue...argue the issue, not the person. Don't make up things that are not there or that you don't know about. We tend to do that when we make assumptions as to how they think or what they do. The worst part is when we go on making all these conclusions and speculations as to what we "think" they are/will doing/do. Also, when you are talking with the person...go to that person. Third-party arguments (i.e. hearing from other sources, email, texting) are a shallow substitute for actual dialogue. Beware of thinking the worst of the other person. Be quick to show grace and forgiveness. 
3. Study for yourself: When you're dealing with an issue...make sure you have studied it yourself. It's always kinda weird when I hear someone explaining something and it's totally wrong. Make sure you have read the thing in its right context. Be fair when you present both sides of the argument. But more importantly...come to a conviction about your stance on your own rather than following someone else's opinion. You need to, at the end of the day, have your own thoughts about things...this is where study comes into play. Yes it's hard and tedious to go and learn yourself...but it's how we grow.
4. Be flexibly solid: As you study more and more and as the Holy Spirit continues to reveal truths to you...you're going to develop convictions about things. It's what you believe. You've studied it and you've come to your conclusion. That's a good thing. However, always be open to refining and shaping your thoughts. You might not have considered the other side of the argument. Allow for some flexibility to change when you come across something that might challenge you.
5. Fight like family: When you discuss topics...remember who you are dealing with. If they are believers in Jesus Christ...it's family. Yes you might disagree with them on how they interpret things...but in the end, they are your brothers and sisters and you can and will worship with them for eternity. Don't you ever elevate certain parts of your theology at the expense of other theology. Like don't get all worked up about "limited atonement" or "unlimited atonement" and neglect Romans 12:10 where it says "love one another with brotherly love". Your heart matters whens you talk about things. Don't forget that you are also commanded to equip and train the saints for the work of the ministry.
6. The Goal: Just like the first point...the goal of you arguing things (if there is a bigger purpose) is NOT to win. If all you want to do is win the argument...then your heart is wrong. Because you don't care about the other person and maybe you've made up all these things about them...and you just want to prove that either you're right or they are wrong. Your heart is off. What's the purpose then of arguments? Ultimately for the refining and sanctification of the Church. The point of conflict in Matthew 18 is restoration and reconciliation. That is your end goal....not to win your argument. 

"Count it joy..."

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. 

James 1:2-4   

There are times when you read a verse and it does nothing to you aside from a good fortune cookie line. Then there are times when the verse punches you in the soul. There will be times that you receive the consequences of your actions. Those are coming for you. You deserve it. But there will be times when people (even those you trust) punch you in the soul. And i've realized that some of those are birth out of betrayal and some are birth out of misconceptions. They draw up this picture of you...or take something you kind of said...and just beat the trash out of you (the fake you).

But James encourages us...count it all joy. He's not talking about faking happiness here. He's talking about remembering/thinking through what it means to possess joy. This kind of joy isn't something that shows up and leaves. It's not acquired at an instance. Rather it's more of a foundation on which you stand and weathers any storm. When do we "count it joy?" when you meet trials of various kinds. If you read a bit more into the text...he's actually talking about all these different trials that "fall upon you." These aren't consequences that you created for yourself. These are ones that seem "random" in our life. But here's the thing...if we are God's children...trials aren't random. Actually, God sends them our way not because He hates us...but because He wants to grow us and in the end allow us to taste joy. 

I know some of you believers are going through a difficult journey right now...and you can't seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel. You feel like God has left you and you're stuck trying to survive on your own. I know...it's hard. I'm there right now. Sometimes people (even God's people) are crazy. They act like the "older brother." but i need you remember some things though - regardless of what they do you to, remember the Gospel. Remember that it was for your sins AND their sins that Christ died for. That Jesus went to the cross with all of that junk in mind. Remember your example that you follow. Don't forget that He was unjustly beat to death...mocked... accused of things that didn't make any logical sense...and killed. But don't forget that He prayed for you in John 17. He prayed that you would remember what this whole thing is about. That it's about His Church that would display his manifold wisdom to the world. 

So endure with faithfulness my brothers and sisters. Pray for your enemies (even if they are within your walls). Ask the Holy Spirit to be the one that brings wisdom to his people. Don't let any root of bitterness sprout and destroy. Continue to faithfully teach what is true and never be satisfied with spiritual shallowness. It has been an insanely difficult time for me...but i write this to you saying that i trust Him. I trust that Jesus is better than anything i would have done and that He's better than my circumstances. 

Questions with purposeful adverbs

1. Have you been intentionally pursuing depth in your life? Have you been idly settling for routine? Where is your desire? What have you been doing with your time?
   
2. Are you currently investing in honest community? Do people really know know you? Have you moved past the surface and down into a deeper sphere of sharing? What have you been hiding from people? Are you known?
   
3. Do you serve with humble generosity? Have you sacrificed your time or money lately? Are your service directed towards others? How about others who "don't deserve it"? How about others who you dislike? Do you serve them? Are you over-serving and need to purposefully rest?
   
4. Where are you missionally engaging the culture? Are you aware of your sphere of influence? Do you pray for that person you sit next to? Do you want that person you pass by in the hallway to be saved? Are you avoiding conversations?
   
5. Are you mindfully equipping the saints? Have you been selfish with your knowledge and wisdom? Do you dream for the next generation? Have you let sin continue unchecked within the body of Christ? Have you been fulfilling your role as discipler?
   
6. Do you desperately yearn to seek what is true? Have you been neglecting the mind at the cost of entertainment? What areas of study have you been avoiding?
   
7. Have you relentlessly begged God to move? Or do you still operate on your own strengths and talents? Do you remember what God has done in the past? 

Leading Youth Teams

1. Don't forget the main purpose: The Gospel should always be at the center of you leader. What does that mean? Well remember that you are not "better" than them nor are they "better" than you. You both need to understand that there's a bigger reality than just planning for ____ event or doing _____. Don't forget that both of you are sinners saved by grace and working towards exposing the light of the Gospel to a lost and dying world as well as equipping the saints. The moment you forget this, it becomes about planning an event. People become statistics. 

2. Be a cheer leading coach: We tend to gravitate to manager-in-charge when it comes to leading a team. Your role, leaders, is mainly to equip the saints...not to take over. Realize that they have ideas too and some times they haven't thought out everything there is (same as you). So if you're part of a group then take the "hey, let me show you how to do this a little better" or "that's a good idea...but have you thought of this?" People will listen and respect the coach because they know they care about them (explicitly and implicitly). In the end, you're put in these groups to encourage the youth...to be their supporter. Listen to them and allow them to make decisions as well. One thing i'm always guilty of is looking back at an event and every part of the event has my changes to it. But keep a healthy balance when you're a part of leading a youth group. Get everyone involved. 

3. Admit your mistakes: When, not if, you make a mistake, lose your temper, act outside the bounds of a mature believer, then go and admit your fault to them individually as well as to the group. You're not perfect and nobody expects you to be. Jesus is and that's why this life is about him...not you. Your team is going to need you to own up to it too. It presents a solid Gospel. 

4. Replicating: God has wired you with your gifts and personality. God has placed you here to serve and to minister. This isn't "just something you do." You forget the eternal weight of what we're caught up in. But in the meantime, you should be replicating yourself. Find students or adults that you can train to carry on what you're currently doing. Share with them the insights that you have gained while working and serving. Tell them what to watch out for and what you've messed up on that they need to be careful. You should always be grooming someone to be right there next to you and eventually take your place...and hopefully they can do a better job. 

i share these things with you because i'm totally for your own growth. This is going to be challenging for some of yall just because it's not going to allow you to stay where you're at. Some of yall are going to have to let go of some control while others have to take control. Hopefully, this helps you to become a stronger leader that sees the Gospel as primary, equips the saints as secondary, and experiences the joy that comes from both. 

facebook chat: clarification of "the fear of God"

"fear" is almost the same thing as "worship"

and whether you believe it or not...everyone right now is worshipping something

and you can find out by asking the question, "what do i spend my time on? what do i really really treasure? what will fulfill me? what motivates me?"

because you end up dedicating your time, money, talents to chase after ______ (and that becomes what you worship or fear)

so how do we get out of it?

well you don't get out of it because it's what we're designed to do

so if you think about it...for a lot of people, they actually fear: relationships, success, status, money, school, etc.

but the problem with all of that is...those are just temporary. they satisfy for just a little bit but end up disappointing us

but this is where Jesus comes in though...because He can actually do what everything promises and fails at. He can actually take our worship and make sense of everything else. It's when we trust him and actually believe in him to satisfy us...that's when things make sense.

everyone worships something...it's just the object of your worship that determines what your life is about